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bookgazing) wrote2009-11-14 04:10 am
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Sometimes you have to laugh (at someone)
Sometimes you just have to laugh. I followed a link from Bookslut to this book called ‘Save the Males’, which basically sounds like a book that claims feminism is equivalent to hating men and that we are all making men emotionally impotent. I clicked through because I anticipated some uber-funny Amazon reviews and was hoping for some indignant ones as well. I found one of the later type, by a man ( you go male ally), but it’s one of the former kind of reviews I want to share with you. This guy is pretty ticked at the women in his own country (America), but he has devised the ultimate way to punish the ones who are making him feel bad. It’s pretty brutal:
‘we American men are beyond sick of it, and getting mad enough to fight back. You want that? Because here's the form that the "fighting back" will take: we'll go elsewhere to meet women. If despising us is how you puff yourselves up, who needs you?’
Umm, gosh I bet all you American women are just freaking out right? Where will you get dates now? Oh the horror my American sisters! Honestly if you think about it (after you wipe all that stuff you just snorted out your nose off your face) it’s kind of a measure of progress that instead of saying fighting back will take the form of violence against women this man’s ultimate threat is that men will be looking elsewhere for their jollies. Really the feminists have already corrupted this guy, he just doesn’t know it yet.
Wait he has more to say and we must listen because otherwise we will be emasculating him:
‘That's a little blunt, but it needs saying. I'm an American man, and in a perfect world I would dearly love to value and honor the women of my own country. But I can't. Not now, anyway. Kathleen is absolutely correct: American women have made such a fetish of themselves, and of blaming men for all of their problems including those they bring upon themselves, that in recent years I have wondered why on earth American men should want to have anything to do with them. I'm married, so I don't have to worry about such things, (and yes, I am married to an American woman.) But I don't blame my fellow American men for going on the Internet and seeking female companions in Europe, South America or the Phillipines. I once adopted a cat who turned out to be so violently hostile to me that I returned it to its original owners. I wanted a companion, not a live-in enemy.’
Snort. You think women will be more receptive to dating your kind in Europe? You know Germany has a female prime minister right? I suspect that he is talking about mail order brides rather than female companions. Let’s move on to the final threat:
‘Kathleen is on-point and on-target when she makes it clear that American men want companions, not live-in enemies. And we're tired of being depicted on TV and in the movies as clueless dolts, incompetent bumblers, witless brutes and green-fanged rapists. It's no longer cute or funny, not that it ever was. Don't treat us with contempt and then expect us to call you for dates. And don't accuse us of seeking "submissive dewdrops" if we go seeking women who won't try to emasculate us in order to make themselves feel "liberated." '
Oh nooooooo! You guys won’t be calling up the women in your country for dates – big loss there ladies, see what your foolish, foolish ways have led to. You may as well go out now, because there is no use waiting by the phone, it won’t be ringing.
* We could have a serious conversation here about the real issues, like:
how to convince men about the true goals of the feminist movement, when many men become indignant if feminists talk about the injustices against women in the past and the present
* how it’s important that we allow both male and female culture to have equal space, without creating exclusionist clubs (I really want to give a massive shout out to GuysLitWire here who have created a space for male reading that doesn’t exclude, or denigrate women) (oh and we could also talk about to what extent there even is such a thing as separate male or female cultures)
* exactly why the feminists of the past were so anti-men and why present low levels of male co-operation/acknowledgement of the issues women have faced in the past, continue to perpetuate anti-male feeling (please note I am sure you all know wonderful men who fully back equal rights for men and women and I am not talking about them here, I know there are great guys out there who don’t suck, but there are also some that do)
* how male allies of the feminist movement are not in any way emotionally crippled, physically emasculated, or controlled by women
but sometimes it’s just more fun to laugh. Take any serious discussion (or very loud laughter) into the comments please.
‘we American men are beyond sick of it, and getting mad enough to fight back. You want that? Because here's the form that the "fighting back" will take: we'll go elsewhere to meet women. If despising us is how you puff yourselves up, who needs you?’
Umm, gosh I bet all you American women are just freaking out right? Where will you get dates now? Oh the horror my American sisters! Honestly if you think about it (after you wipe all that stuff you just snorted out your nose off your face) it’s kind of a measure of progress that instead of saying fighting back will take the form of violence against women this man’s ultimate threat is that men will be looking elsewhere for their jollies. Really the feminists have already corrupted this guy, he just doesn’t know it yet.
Wait he has more to say and we must listen because otherwise we will be emasculating him:
‘That's a little blunt, but it needs saying. I'm an American man, and in a perfect world I would dearly love to value and honor the women of my own country. But I can't. Not now, anyway. Kathleen is absolutely correct: American women have made such a fetish of themselves, and of blaming men for all of their problems including those they bring upon themselves, that in recent years I have wondered why on earth American men should want to have anything to do with them. I'm married, so I don't have to worry about such things, (and yes, I am married to an American woman.) But I don't blame my fellow American men for going on the Internet and seeking female companions in Europe, South America or the Phillipines. I once adopted a cat who turned out to be so violently hostile to me that I returned it to its original owners. I wanted a companion, not a live-in enemy.’
Snort. You think women will be more receptive to dating your kind in Europe? You know Germany has a female prime minister right? I suspect that he is talking about mail order brides rather than female companions. Let’s move on to the final threat:
‘Kathleen is on-point and on-target when she makes it clear that American men want companions, not live-in enemies. And we're tired of being depicted on TV and in the movies as clueless dolts, incompetent bumblers, witless brutes and green-fanged rapists. It's no longer cute or funny, not that it ever was. Don't treat us with contempt and then expect us to call you for dates. And don't accuse us of seeking "submissive dewdrops" if we go seeking women who won't try to emasculate us in order to make themselves feel "liberated." '
Oh nooooooo! You guys won’t be calling up the women in your country for dates – big loss there ladies, see what your foolish, foolish ways have led to. You may as well go out now, because there is no use waiting by the phone, it won’t be ringing.
* We could have a serious conversation here about the real issues, like:
how to convince men about the true goals of the feminist movement, when many men become indignant if feminists talk about the injustices against women in the past and the present
* how it’s important that we allow both male and female culture to have equal space, without creating exclusionist clubs (I really want to give a massive shout out to GuysLitWire here who have created a space for male reading that doesn’t exclude, or denigrate women) (oh and we could also talk about to what extent there even is such a thing as separate male or female cultures)
* exactly why the feminists of the past were so anti-men and why present low levels of male co-operation/acknowledgement of the issues women have faced in the past, continue to perpetuate anti-male feeling (please note I am sure you all know wonderful men who fully back equal rights for men and women and I am not talking about them here, I know there are great guys out there who don’t suck, but there are also some that do)
* how male allies of the feminist movement are not in any way emotionally crippled, physically emasculated, or controlled by women
but sometimes it’s just more fun to laugh. Take any serious discussion (or very loud laughter) into the comments please.